If you're not going to take this seriously, simply do not reply.

I can't go to anyone I actually know, b/c I know they won't actually listen.

I'm not yet of age to legally marry. But my boyfriend & I have vowed to each other to be together forever. Does God care about our legal system's views of marriage, or is it simply in our hearts?

I don't want any answers saying "there's a possibility of you not ending up married" b/c you know what, there's a possibility of you getting divorced. It's not gonna happen w/ us. If you don't believe it, don't answer.

& yes, this is about sex.

we pray about it so much. we've been researching it so much. we've got nothing, heh.

Law is handed down to mankind from God through Christ Jesus, He says "We must be subjective to our "Government Authorities" on earth for they do "His will".
Love is trust and can not be foresaken for sensual fillings. It will lead to the road of unrest. If you love your partner and he with you,then waiting for the right time will prove that both of you have discipline, patience and true love for each other.

Patience is a virtue.

Godbless you

Rodger

In the matter of sex patience is a miracle.

You do not give enough details for any meaningful response votre.

Your age and the age of your mate is needed.

Your faith and the faith of your mate is needed.

Your expertise with the future doesn't give one cause for assurance.

Keep plucking away girl. If you find a loop-hole let me know.

john.

I'm 16 & he's 17.
We both grew up Christian baptists.
I was quite off-track before him, & now I'm like a completely different person.
Which is a huge reason I have so much faith in our relationship.

It's just a weird situation, & annoying b/c I have no one who I actually know I could talk to about this, which would obviously be ideal.
We have contradicting views.
I know I should have patience w/ this, just where I am in my life makes it incredibly hard.
B/c, I believe w/o a doubt no sex means no, well, anything.
& I will not get married until I graduate college.
It'll of course be hard for me, but I think a lot more for him, haha.
I know we'll make it either way, just...
He disagrees w/ me. Idk. Not cool.

Amen little sister.


Godbless you in all His ways

brother Rodger

votre.

My youngest daughter was 16 when she gave birth to my grandson. 16 is legal in the UK. (He is three now and she has just been housed by the local council).

About marriage you mean?

You know nothing of the sort. You have no control over him for a start.

As for you: 1 Cor 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.

That is what you must live up to. Love is a decision not a feeling.

Will you be patient with him?
Will you always be kind to him?
Will you never envy or be boastful to him?
Are you looking for the best for him?
Do you lose it with him?
Do you keep reminding him of his failures?
Where you fail it means you do not love. Try again.

john.

to the opening poster...

How dare you try to destroy that young man's life before it even gets started. If you love him you will push marraige off the table and if he has any sense whatsoever he would dump you for the thought of it.

Marraige is bondge to men and NOT something I wish on either of my sons. And I stress to them if they do marry not to do so to the spoiled trash that American girls are raised to be.

But no, a Gov. does not have to sanction a marraige for it to be legal in God's eyes.

Subject yourself to all authorities,For it is God's commandment.
Rebellion against God is an eternal sin that will not be forgiven anyone.

Sex before marriage is a sin, I understand your situation votremerexx and most Christians have failed that discipline.
It does lead to unfaithfulness in the future in marriage, either adultery in action or in thought (the reason why is the original intention that took place)).I think you know what I mean.

I have five children form one love whom I've been with since school and are still in love today, but have gone through many waters and still do.Trust is the key to faithfulness.

We were all at that cross road once, God does require us to marry to become one flesh before procreation for many reasons, He knows what happens if we don't.God does this for the sake of faith.

If he is not willing to marry you before sex he is not of God, but satan intentions.
My only advice to you is if you remain in His word he will remain in you always and your husband. Your life will be a faithful blessing.Listen to your heart and follow it and not your mind.

God is your heart.

Godbless you

Rodger

Fruit.
The reason we are on this planet is to be fruitful & multiply.
How does that happen w/o marriage?
How does being in love make me a terrible person.
& he brought up marriage, LONG before we ever talked about sex.
That was a very rude thing to post.
You should think before you speak.

[quote=votremerexx;9146]Fruit.
this is a bold statement...two quick thngs regarding it...

1. just because people 'were' told to be fruitful and multiply does not mean that is our purpose for existing...

2. during that same period, we are told it is not good for man to be alone...people needn't die, and there was no city hall where on could register for a marriage certificate.

but in this period, Paul tells us in 1 Cor. it is good NOT to marry....that is how i raise my children...Marraige is not forbidden, but should not be encouraged for those who wish to serve God...or have true freedom to do so...

Plus do know that man does NOT need to regard a Marriage for it to be legal in God's eyes.

To obey the laws of the land is required, but there is no law that requires us to marry.

As noted above, in this age, one who wishes to serve God should not marry and marraige is much more than sex and having children.

Who called you a terrible person? Though you are now pouting like a spoiled one.

How do you know you are in love?
then he is an idiot...dump the dumb moron because if what you are saYing is true it is just a ploy to compromise you...I used it much when i was a teenager....it goes like...

make the silly chick think this is real, get her trust, get her where we want her...then afterwards when the sex gets boring, tell her we are not ready for a serious relationship yet....

works great...


so? The truth is the truth rude or not...

Now you know i do and you look like a silly child using out of context material to support your childish ideas of marraige and thinking you actually know what you are saying...

laughably entertaining, but childish ignorance just the same.